My MIL’s Feeling Hot, Hot, Hot!
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
Every time I visit my MIL, I’m freezing. She’s been going through menopause for 15 years and insists that the temperature be kept ridiculously low. It’s not just me. Everyone is cold… my husband, my kids. I pile on the sweaters, but it doesn’t really help. I hate being so physically uncomfortable at her home. What should I do?
Signed,
Freezing My Bum Off In Indiana
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Dear Bum Freezer,
Remember that great Jim Croce song from the 70’s—the one that goes, “You don’t tug on Superman’s cape. You don’t spit in the wind. You don’t pull the mask off the old Lone Ranger and you don’t mess around with Jim”? Well, replace “Jim” with “menopausal mother-in-law” and you’ll know what kind of high-stakes danger we’re dealing with here. Hell hath no fury like a Woman with a Hot Flash, my friend. That’s why you’ll never find me in a Chico’s store in Phoenix in the summer—it’s just too damn risky. I really don’t want to get strangled to death with reasonably priced resort wear.
Now, the answer as to how you can all keep warm at Chez MIL when the thermostat is set at Arctic levels is obvious. Everybody ready? On the count of three, here we go—one, two, three…
SNUGGIES!
Next time you visit, just pull one of those babies out for everyone but her, and she’ll feel like she’s surrounded by a group of crazyass Druids. You can even start chanting “Ice, Ice Baby” for some added fun. (But don’t try to do the Vanilla Ice dance moves when Snuggiefied or you’ll most likely get an internal injury or two.)
If that doesn’t work, you should just delicately and honestly express your concerns. Say that you truly love to see her, but the low temperatures in her house make everyone feel uncomfortable. If your visit is just for a few hours, it shouldn’t be too hard for her to warm it up a little. If she still won’t, try to come up with reasons for her to visit your house instead during the winter. That way you’ll be in charge of the all-important thermostat.
So good luck, Bum Freezer. I hope this works out for you and your family. And remember—keep those Snuggies in a safe place because your children are going to need them when it’s your turn to go through menopause. Brrrrr.
Love,
Wendi, TMH
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The Thong’s The Thing….
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How Do You Spell ‘Idiot’? With no ‘e’
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
I have always spelled my name without an “e” at the end…as in, always. My husband’s family (we have been married for more than twenty years) still spells it with an “e” on every birthday and Christmas card. It drives me crazy! In the 2008 Christmas cards, I actually signed my name and put in brackets after (with no “e”). Guess what, for my birthday and for Christmas 2009, ALL the cards had my name WITH an “e”!
How can I deal with this?
Signed,
Irritated by In-laws
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Dear Erritated,
This has a simple solution: Begin misspelling all of their names too. Let’s say your father-in-law’s name is John. On his next birthday, write in the card, “Happy Birthday, Jerke!”
See how that works? You could even say, “Happy Birthday, Jerk (with no ‘e’)” since that seems to be a sort of calling card for you.
Or you could say “Happy Birthday, Jon,” if you would rather take a more tone-downed, sissy approach. But be warned! You’ll lose face with the Mouthy Housewives if you do.
Signed,
Haehter, TMH
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I Love It, Can I Have It?
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
My sister-in-law likes my stuff. She likes my stuff so much that every time she visits she asks things like, “Can I have those earphones?” and “Oh I love this lotion! Can I have it?” and “That antique dresser would look way better at my house, can I have it?”
My house is not a fire sale. I like my stuff as much as she does and have no desire to give it away. When I ask my husband to politely tell her to keep her filthy mitts off, he just shrugs and says, “That’s just my sister’s personality.” How can I tell my sister-in-law to buy her own housewares and still be invited to family functions?
Signed,
For The Love Of Stuff
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Dear Stuff Lover,
I’ve heard that in some cultures, it’s a high compliment to tell someone that you want their things. I was just in a middle of a letter to President Obama asking him to put those countries within the axis of evil and proceed accordingly.
Because having family over is traumatic enough, without them pilfering your belongings. Assuming that your sister-in-law is over the age of nine, the age where most children are developmentally able to grasp the concept of “not mine,” there are some strategies to combat her outrageous behavior.
Tell her No.
Let’s practice.
Sister-in-law: “I love that chair! Can I have it?”
You: “No.”
Sister-in-law: “What a great vase! It’ll look great at my house.”
You: “Sure, take it!”
Sister-in-law: “Really? Thanks!”
You: “Of course not! Who does this kind of thing? Get away from my stuff!”
Repeat as necessary. After a few months, she should realize that your stuff is not hers for the asking and stop.
If not, just show up at her house and start asking for stuff.
“That ruby ring is so gorgeous, but is not really flattering on you, hand it over,” you may try.
Or, “I love your china set. Why don’t I take it, since you’re not exactly a fancy cook?” If she agrees, great news! You just got lots of stuff to unload on eBay. If she seems outraged, congratulate her on her very Aha! Moment. Even Oprah would be proud.
Toodles,
Marinka, TMH
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The Naked Daughter-In-Law Incident
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
Last weekend I was staying at my husband’s parents’ house and my father-in-law accidentally saw me getting out of the shower—-naked. Now what do I do?
Signed,
Daughter-(In-The-Buff)-In-Law
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Dear DITBIL,
First of all, ewwwww. Second of all, you can stop freaking out because I really don’t think your father-in-law seeing you naked is that big of a deal; I’m sure that type of thing has happened to a lot of women. In fact, now that I think of it, I may have even seen something like that happen in a movie once. Okay, so the movie was on Skinemax at 1 a.m., and it was called “Father-In-Law Fantasies IV,” but still—-no big whoop.
That is, no big whoop unless you’ve noticed a change in your father-in-law’s behavior ever since he saw you shakin’ your soaped up money maker. For example, is he now eager to sit right next to you at dinner? Has he mentioned your Hello Kitty pelvic tattoo in the family newsletter? Or, God forbid, has the old man recently taken your husband aside and said, “Son, I noticed your wife doesn’t seem to believe in Brazilian waxing, but if you ask me, she’s a really great candidate”?
If any of that has happened, change your name and move to another state as soon as you’re done reading this post. Trust me.
However, if nothing of the sort is going on and your FIL has remained silent, my advice is that you take the same approach. After all, bringing up the shower scene will just embarrass you both all over again, and odds are he’s already weirded out by what happened. Since he’s also probably very worried that he’s upset you, it’s best for you to just pretend it never happened.
But don’t be surprised if he gives you a really, really, really big Christmas gift this year.
Sincerely,
Wendi, TMH
