Stop Making Plans, I’m Pregnant!
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
I am six months pregnant and very hormonal. My husband’s brother called last week and said that he had set a date for his wedding. It just so happens that it is four hours away, two weeks before my due date. Now, this wouldn’t be such a big deal except my other son was born four weeks early. Oh, and he wants my husband and son to be IN the wedding. I don’t want to go and I don’t want my boys to go either. Am I just being mean or do I have a right to be angry?
Signed,
Pouty Preggo
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Dear Preggo,
Of course you have a right to be angry! Stupid brother-in-law is focused his stupid plans for his stupid wedding when you are on the verge of procreating and making sure that the human race continues to exist. Certainly puts things in perspective.
What? You really thought that I’d tell a hormonosaurus that she’s being unreasonable? My mama didn’t raise no fool, you know.
But maybe your brother-in-law’s mama did. Perhaps he thinks that your June 1st due date is etched in stone and feels free to plan around it. This is the perfect time for you to have a talk with him. Let him know that when mommy and daddy love each other very, very much, they enjoy a special hug. And then, some nine months later, a beautiful baby is born. But the nine months time is approximate because sometimes the beautiful baby is in a very big rush to meet his mommy and daddy and also favoritest uncle in the whole world. And the beautiful baby would be sad to know that he was born right during the wedding and missed all the fun. That would make the beautiful baby cry. A very loud cry that pierces the soul and sterilizes middle aged men. Certainly, your bro-in-law doesn’t want that.
Or, have your husband tell his brother that if the wedding is so close to your due date, your family can’t guarantee attendance. But promise to definitely try to make the next one!
Best,
Marinka, TMH
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The Baby Pressure Is On
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
I have an issue with my kids. The kids I don’t have yet. Well, that’s the problem. I don’t have them yet. We’ve been married for a year now and we are not planning on having children until the end of the Obama administration or the advent of socialized health care, whichever takes longer. This is an unmitigated disaster for my mom who doesn’t understand that as much as we want to carry on the proud family tradition, we are just emotionally and financially not ready.
“You were totally unplanned,” she says as I try to explain that once you have a kid you can’t go to India or advance as much in your job. How do I get her to stop being all up in my ovaries for the next few years?
Vexed Vicki
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Dear Vexed Vicki,
How old are you Miss Vexed Vicki? Are you in your twenties? If so, then kick back, drink some sangria and enjoy the good life of 10 hours of sleep a night. Are you in your thirties? Well, then you might not want to wait for socialized health care in this country, or maybe it’s time to move to Canada, because us ladies can’t have babies forever. No, that’s a special honor given to men, along with higher wages for equal work. But I don’t want to get all riled up here. Let’s focus on babies.
Now when I first got married, I had barely finished stuffing every last remnant of wedding cake in my face when everyone started asking, “So when are you going to have a baby?” And truthfully, as much as I wanted a family, I was never going to be ready. Because how does one truly prepare themselves for sleepless nights, nauseating poop situations and a lifetime of worry? You can’t. You’ll never be emotional prepared. And you’ll never have enough money. One day, you just decide to take the plunge. That’s why babies are insanely cute. Or else it wouldn’t be worth it.
Of course, it’s completely up to you and your husband when you decide to start a family. And no one (including your mom) should pressure you into anything. Because she won’t be there at 2 am when that insanely cute pain in the arse won’t stop crying. So tell you mom that you are waiting for a couple of years. Let her rant, beg and plead. Then buy her a puppy, name him “grandchild” and tell her the case is closed for now.
Then go take that trip to India. Because once you’re preggers, that ain’t happening for awhile. A long while.
Good luck,
Kelcey, TMH
