Single Lady Seeks Good Time with Married Friends
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
I’m single and a lot of my friends are married. They never want to do anything with me unless I’m dating someone. It’s kind of insulting. Look, I get it. They’re married. But whatever happened to girls’ night out? How do I get my friends to see that I’m worth spending time with even when I’m single? Or should I just seek out other single gal pals?
Signed,
Single Lady
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Dear Single Lady,
If you’re insulted now, just wait until those married friends start having kids. Things will only get worse, unless you’re the type of single woman who enjoys discussing why Little Johnny Jr. hasn’t pooped in three days. And if you are, honey, get yourself to a bar and have a drink, please!
For reasons I don’t understand myself, matrimonial status affects friendships. This phenomenon also works in reverse during a divorce. Your married-now-single friend no longer wants to hang around with you, the still married one. What can we say? Life is weird sometimes.
You might need to accept the dynamics of your relationship have changed. It’s probably a good idea to seek out other single gal pals to share in the typical single fun; bar hopping with cleavage, picking up random guys, dancing on tables, and going home smelling like cigarettes. That is what you single people do for fun, isn’t it? I haven’t been single in over 13 years, so I have no idea.
But there’s no reason your relationship with your married friends has to end completely. You just may need to adjust your idea of fun down to what married women like to do for fun, such as…as…um…for instance…
Holy @#$%, I’ve been married too long.
Sincerely,
Heather, TMH
6 Responses to “Single Lady Seeks Good Time with Married Friends”
Comment by Marinka,TMH.
Whenever someone says “girls’ night out” I do everything I can to be there. Even if I don’t know the person who says it. Which, pre-margaritas, can be a little awkward.
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Comment by mswiggie.
I’m single AND a mom, so I get shunned by married couples and single men (except for needy single dads who want me to be the new mommy) all the time.
It’s rough to pal around with single gal pals who don’t have kids, tough to pal around with married women with or without kids. Bacardi and Disaronno have def become my best friends.
My advice to Single Lady is to plan a get-together at your house and invite your women friends. Provide booze and food and they’re in. Male stripper, even better. =)
Or plan to go see a super sappy chick-flick that you KNOW the girls want to see but their men won’t be caught dead at. Target a Sunday afternoon when most of the men-folk are glued to the tube watching sports.
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Comment by Aludra.
As a married-no-kids person like the friend, I don’t see why she won’t hang out with you, Single Lady. Unless all you invite her to do is to go to bars or male strip clubs. If she’s newly married, include her husband in your plans. Go to movies or laser tag or bowling or something uber-co-ed like that.
One of my really good friends is a gal I met while I was married and she was single. Now she’s not single and we still hang out frequently (sans men). But we never have been ones to go out drinking or clubbing so that may be why we haven’t run into status-related issues.
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Comment by Erin.
this issue totally sucks! i have a group of girl friends – there are 5 of us. 3 are married with one or more kids, 2 are single. i know the single girls are not enjoying our girls nights that much b/c we talk about husbands and babies. i try to talk about work, but honestly, outside of work and my family, there is little else going on in my life. we don’t debate politics or religion b/c of differences, so what do they want us to talk about?
anyway, i understand the single girls pain, but it really is just as hard on the flip side!
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Comment by MarathonMom.
- Best trip to Brazil
- Matthew McConkeys shirtless abs
- Nordies shoe department
- that skinny bitch that hogs the front in bootcamp class.
- our mothers
~ all things all women have in common. What’s the problem here?
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Comment by JK.
I tend to go to lunch with my friends who are in a different place than I am. (Single, or with small kids or just unavailable on weekends). Once in a blue moon we actually make it to a happy hour.
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