Comments on: You Might As Well Dance With Ugly Men Too

By: Steph

Steph — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 06:27:20 +0000

ditto

By: mom, again

mom, again — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 06:12:45 +0000

My ex didn’t pick up payments when the kids returned to my home after a brief try at living with him. We’d spent some months trying to reinitiate visitation, but he was never available. And, no child support. Their step dad and I decided we could do well enough without. We stopped pursuing him, thinking that by the holidays/his daughter’s birthday, surely he’d pick up the ball and run with it.

No, it took 7 years and Facebook for him to bother. When both kids had aged out of child support. Imagine that.

As with the time they lived with him, there was some positive and some negative to our choice. Overall though, both the living with and the not seeing for the next 7 years mostly served to teach them exactly what kind of person he is. AND the sort of people we are. My daughter recently told us that when she says ‘mom and dad’ she means her stepdad, not bio dad.

They are now counseling their half-siblings as he’s now splitting with his 2nd wife. The oldest of those children recently FB’ed one of mine, ‘you know, dad is kind of a jerk’.

Yes. Now you know.

By: bookthingys

bookthingys — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:42:21 +0000

Perfect response.

As a mother with an ex in arrears and a to-be stepmom, I hate dancing with ugly men, as well.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:59:03 +0000

I would have seriously hurt my husband if he had ever neglected his responsibilities to his son. No, it isn’t easy, being a stepmom, but I knew what I was getting into when I went into this. That boy’s emotional and physical care became just as much my job as his biological parents’ job, once I said “I do.” In the word stepmother, the operative part is the word “mother.”

By: Plano Mom

Plano Mom — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 11:29:48 +0000

There’s really no comment to that, the answer is perfect.

So I’ll just say amen.

And one other thing, because I can’t shut up.

Kudos to the Dad for sticking by his commitment, even if only financial. I can’t help but wonder if he stays away from his child because the boy’s mother is just as much an immature self centered bitch as his current wife.