Comments on: Married to a Porn King

By: kmdguerra

kmdguerra — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 21:54:26 +0000

Sorry, kiddo, but you’re knight in shining armor is a louse! He told you “you don’t turn me on anymore”!? WTF!? Definitely see a counselor, but if he won’t go, you also need to see a lawyer and find out what your options are.

And seriously, what IS he washing himself with that he hurts himself down there?

By: Lynn

Lynn — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 15:40:11 +0000

He actually said that you don’t turn him on anymore? Wow … thanks a lot, Dear Husband.

I agree with Heather. Get thee to a marriage/sex counselor, ASAP.

By: Amy @ The Bitchin' Wives Club

Amy @ The Bitchin' Wives Club — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:17:21 +0000

I think there are two options: therapy or divorce. I’m sorry, but unless I had put on 300 extra pounds…. the words “Sorry, you just don’t turn me on anymore.” are a deal breaker.

If he won’t agree to a therapist, get yourself out of the relationship and and start moving on as soon as you can.

By: Rachael

Rachael — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 09:21:03 +0000

I was reading this in bed and had to get a guys point of view. When I read the hurt himself in the shower excuse I got a what the hell is he doing in there? I would really like to know this too because I can’t seem to come up with anything reasonable.

I agree that outside help is a good idea. I’ve gone to my pastor several times when I’ve been dealt some serious blows and he’s always helped me through it.

Your letter does not say if there’s been a major change in your life other than marriage. Have you had a child recently? I know the last two years have not been great for our sex life but we’ve slowly managed to get it back on track.

By: Heather (qtberryhead)

Heather (qtberryhead) — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 19:18:33 +0000

I think a therapist is a must.
The thing that was making me bang my head the hardest was not the porn, but the fact that he actually told you that you didn’t turn him on. I mean, how is any girl supposed to compete with porn chicks?? Aside from skanking up a bit…
Addiction issues aside, what an assholish thing to say!
What if you got a boyfriend?? Would hubby consider a boyfriend different than his 24/7 travels in virtual Cooterville?

By: momsterrr

momsterrr — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 18:13:13 +0000

If hubby does not perform, get the a ‘Rabbit’ or other high-functioning toy.

By: Gunfighter

Gunfighter — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 15:24:03 +0000

Eject, eject, eject!

By: mexmom

mexmom — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 15:09:34 +0000

Great advice… he has a problem and must face it..

By: jennelsonlane

jennelsonlane — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 14:28:18 +0000

Am very interetsed in hearing how he’s injuring himelf during bathing. Good grief.

Marriage counseling is a MUST. It’s only a matter of time before this issue seeps into other areas of your marriage,if it hasn’t already. You deserve better!

By: SheilaG

SheilaG — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 14:07:01 +0000

Absolutely! You have to get this out in the open! But I also don't think that people understand the relationship between porn & low sex drive. For a guy, when you look at porn, you get aroused by the images. And masturbation & pornography go hand in hand. You get to the point where you can no longer become aroused in a relationship--it can only be with pornography. Everyone thinks porn is so sexy, but really it just leads to IMPOTENCE! Sex needs to be about a physical, emotional, and spiritual connection between two people. Bring porn into it, and you may as well put a Brillo pad on your genitals! I've got a series of articles on porn on my blog right now. Read part 1 and part 2 on what porn does to men, and then read on how women use porn to dissociate during sex here and here.