Comments on: I Want Your Sex Every Day of the Month

By: thepsychobabble

thepsychobabble — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 17:56:47 +0000

Well, to be fair, we had sex ALLTHETIME when we were dating too. But we also had a lot more of that stuff they call “free time”.
Now, I barely recall what that is…lol

By: Plano Mom

Plano Mom — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 14:38:56 +0000

Yes to the hormones – thought my hubs was cheating because his libido gradually declined until we were having fun ever. Short stint with hormone therapy, he’s back to his old ways!

By: Anon

Anon — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 04:49:32 +0000

After 20 years 3x a month is about right for us (me But when we do have it it is fabulous. I would prefer infrequent fab sex over every night ‘please hurry up’ sex any day.

But thinking maybe we should strive for once a week.. My mother recently told me when us kids were growing up her and dad would not fight for more than three days as that was as long as Dad could make it without sex. WTF?! My parents did it more than we do?!

Our problem is our house is small and you can hear EVERYTHING. Kids getting older and staying up later and later… Usually indulge when none of them are HOME!

By: kmdguerra

kmdguerra — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 23:41:49 +0000

Me and my hubby actually tried to do this after we got married and it lasted all of three days. Planned sex is not so much fun, even if you have gone on a four month hiatus of not having any! (Yeah, we swore off sex four months before the wedding…let me tell you, it was the.best.sex.ever on our wedding night!)

By: janine

janine — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:01:00 +0000

Obviously you have to find a balance that works for the both of you and I hate to pathologize what is probably nothing at all but it is also possible that Heather is dead-on. Men’s hormone levels shift a great deal as they age (just like women’s) and they can derive benefits from hormone replacement therapies too. Might be something to look into if you find yourselves at another impasse.

By: Maddnessofme

Maddnessofme — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 20:35:53 +0000

Thanks so much! I love it. Yes, my husband is in his 40′s. I guess it just sortof bugs me when I think about when we were dating (we had sex ALL the time). We’ve been married 2 years now and the frequency immediately declined (but we didn’t live together before).

But, I’m happy to report that although he didn’t seem excited when I mentioned it, things have picked up. I think the suggestion got him thinking, as it did me.

He just wasn’t paying attention.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:11:47 +0000

Is your husband in his late 30s, early 40s? I swear a bit of testosterone dies with every hair that falls out of their head and doesn’t grow back.

By: Muirgen

Muirgen — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:05:44 +0000

Twice a month is about average for my friends with small kids. And while I don’t know that quality is always better than quantity – I believe the act itself, even if not-so-hot, helps keep loving partners connected. I also think that the sex life of marriages goes in cycles too. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

Kelcey’s advice is right-on. You go, girl.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:43:41 +0000

Twice a month seems a little rare to me, even if it is “hot”. Maybe suggest you try to have sex at least once a week? Still not very often, but double what you are doing now!