Comments on: My Space the “real” version

By: s2sparksy

s2sparksy — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:15:51 +0000

Good God am I glad I live with boys! Unless something vears off path in high-school, I don’ see glitter in my future. Happily married with two households, but we live in both of them all together. City house and country house. LOTS to maintain – make sure your up for an organizational never-ending triathalon.

By: Silvered Wolf Momma

Silvered Wolf Momma — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:00:12 +0000

After reading this and a few of the other comments, I have to be honest. My second marriage, I was seriously considering my own place. Ironically, it’s ending in divorce and this was years after I suggested it. He was very offended I would consider my own place. Have you considered HIS feelings on this? The cost of living probably won’t go up greatly, since you’ve both been paying your own way (I’m guessing) but Big Momma D. is right, you’d save money and if you do love him as much as you say you do, why not move in? It’s not any of my business, but how long have you known each other? There will be um, ‘quirks’ that will pop up along the way over the years and I agree vacations alone are a great suggestion if you HAVE to get away. I may consider making my own private pirate play house in the backyard complete with Jolly Roger! I liked the thought of hiding out in a playhouse as Kay posted. =-D

By: Andrea's Sweet Life

Andrea's Sweet Life — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 16:53:17 +0000

Make a pro/con list of why get married? If the only thing on the pro list is being able to check that little box that says “married”, I’d say dating is freaking awesome for you.

By: admin

admin — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 16:15:22 +0000

The glitter thing is a pet peeve of mine because it gets on everything and impossible to get it off everything. That’s why.

By: Kay

Kay — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:09:05 +0000

Married forever (ok, 13 years) and love the husband to death. Kids and dogs too… but what I wouldn’t give some days for a little cottage (even just in the damn backyard) that’s ALL mine.
Hmmm… I’m short. I wonder if one of those kiddy playhouse things would be a good idea to put on my Christmas list??? I’m sure hubby would love it, too.

By: Big Momma D

Big Momma D — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 14:53:52 +0000

Amo, I was asking myself the same question. Glad you said it first.

If we all had the means to keep 2 separate homes (and there were no trust issues)I think most of us would jump at the chance. You could still have sleepovers, and you’d never feel he married you to just to have someone to cook and clean for him. Can you tell I’ve been happily divorced for 24 years? Having said that, I still think that a real marriage requires being together in one home, sharing the good and the bad and putting up with one another’s idiosyncracies. I have seen a “marriage” where the spouses lived on different continents. Inconceivable, but true.

By: Aludra

Aludra — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 14:34:40 +0000

I am happily married for the first time, and successfully begged for my own personal bedroom. Compromises were made of course. I still have to sleep in ‘our’ bedroom at night, but I get to nap on the bed in the office – aka my bedroom any time I like. Which works out well since Hubby can play WoW while I sleep peacefully, sprawled out and able to kick my legs freely without any toe stubbing.

By: Erin

Erin — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 14:28:07 +0000

Now see, I’m happily married for the second time, but am wondering if hubby and daughter would let me have my own place…hmm.

By: Amo

Amo — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 13:18:26 +0000

Okay, glitter?! WTF?

By: Inna

Inna — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 12:43:51 +0000

I like sharing my space with my fiance. I already feel like the marriage is just a signature step anyways. But I think different things work for different people. If you wanna have separate residencies, then go for it!